What's the chaos trying to tell me?

Published on July 18, 2018

I have had a fairly chaotic three months by virtue of dates in my diary playing musical chairs; the red bus nature of work that is May, June and July; and launching two open programmes for later in the year. In the middle of this I took an unexpected trip to New Zealand to say farewell to a close friend who suddenly, and sadly passed away.

Somehow it’s summer, and like many other folk we are away on holiday soon. Do you ever have that conversation with yourself as to whether it’s worth it? Between what it takes to make it happen, and the jump-start required upon re-entry, maybe I’d be better to just keep going. I sound like a entitled prick, of course we will go on holiday and I’m grateful for it.

A client was recently speaking of chaos and beautifully described feeling like he was trying to build a jet engine on a plane that was already flying. I invited him to stop, and notice the chaos. “What is the chaos trying to tell you?” I am going to try the same.

What is the chaos trying to tell me?

Are you trying to put a round peg in a square hole?

Is this happening to you, or for you?

What conversations are you avoiding?

What else are you avoiding?

Chaos and order is a continuous game of hide and seek

Stop and look for patterns

Chaos, change and progress are inextricably linked


What bits of this have I created?

Are they real or imagined?

It’s important to stop


What has changed?

You can do more in a day than you think

One thing at a time (NASA proved this is all anyone can do effectively)

What action do I need to take?

Maybe it’s not a what thing, maybe it’s a how thing

What are you trying to achieve?

What do you need to let go of?

Slow down to speed up

Home, family, friends and health matter more

Use areas of tension as your compass

Discover, discovering

Be here now

Let's dance

Enjoy your summer break if you’re taking one. I’m back at the beginning of August - all red buses and jet engines welcome.

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